How to Care About YOU When You Leave a Job


A lot of people don’t have any problems taking care of themselves, their priorities, and their needs. But this one’s for the people who do have trouble with those things.

We’re talking about people pleasers in the Leaving Well blog–specifically, how to protect your energy and boundaries when transitioning out of a role, project, or organization.

The sense that you’re disappointing the teammates you’ll leave behind, or that your boss is secretly angry that you’d dare to abandon them, or any other of the infinite worries you might have can twist you up inside. You might believe that you have to justify your decision, or apologize for it, or make up for it in some other way.

But you are your number one priority. And my latest blog post People Pleasing and Leaving Well: How to Prioritize Yourself will help you navigate this transition with your boundaries intact.

You’ll learn:

  • How to find the evidence that your decision to leave is the right one, so you can confidently back yourself up if anyone tries to question your choice.
  • How to balance “energy taking” activities with “energy giving” ones to take better mental and physical care of yourself during this tough time.
  • What your “riverbank” of boundaries and values looks like and how to keep it stable and shored up.
  • Lots of reflection questions to help you discern your workplace boundaries and your value outside of your career.

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​Read the article here​

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To listen to an audio version of this article, tune in to Episode 45 of the Leaving Well Podcast: Self-Awareness and Boundaries.

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