😱 Ranking your friends and "good" goodbyes


“You need to rank your friends. You want to give the most time to the people who have invested the most in you. You don’t want to give your last moments, your most valuable moments, to your Number 15 friends. Your Number Ones deserve your best time. It’s good stewardship of your time.” - Jerry Jones

Have you ever thought about ranking your friends? Prioritizing them based on a number of factors, or putting them into categories related to how much time you give them, or who you call first during specific scenarios?

Jerry Jones was a guest back in Season One of the Leaving Well podcast, on episode 11, and we talked about this very topic. Click here to listen to Jerry's take on your Number One Friends.

Jerry also talks -- in this clip above -- about the opposite of intentionality being natural (as in your natural state of being), which is a really powerful take on the choices we all have to make when navigating change.

To listen to the entire episode, or read the transcript: https://lnkd.in/eYr2xR2c

Are goodbyes something you think you're good at, or do you struggle when the scenario presents (whether you're moving, leaving a job, processing a death, etc.)?

Hit reply and let me know, or record your anonymous thoughts for me here!

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